Each person is born into different circumstances. We grew up in different backgrounds. They originally have different fates and destinies. It also depends on who and what you were told while growing up.
It's ridiculous for people who don't understand this to try to give advice to others.
人はそれぞれ生まれ持った状況が違う。育った背景がちがう。もともと持っている宿命や運命が違う。誰に何を言われて育ったかも違う。
それを理解していない人間が他者にアドバイスしようというのは、滑稽である。